I have recently come across a couple of new applications for smart devices. The two that I am certain will not be the last are called The Secret App & The Whisper App. Both of these apps have the same features, you can post your thoughts anonymously on your status for your list of contacts to see. That means that you can say anything and none of your friends will know it is you who is saying it.
One of the makers of this app had this to say: “This reaffirms our belief that anonymity can foster positive change in the world.” This statement is a reflection of how many people view the world. They are so desperate to share their inner most thoughts, yet they are fearful of the consequence and subsequent damage to relationships. At no point does the thought of restraining their poor choices come to mind. Instead the poor choices remain but now they have an outlet for their conscience without the risk of being disowned.
But here in lies the problem! Though they are able to take their secrets out of “isolation”, they are still not completely free. They are still NOT completely KNOWN, and that is what we are ALL craving.
I love how Dr. Tim Keller sums it up:
“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.”
― Timothy Keller, The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God
Let’s be honest as brothers and sisters in Christ, we have not been a safe place for people to share their inner most. We are ignorant of what grace and the sacrifice of Christ truly is that we are unable to offer that to others. Being close to people who share their struggles makes us feel vulnerable and dirty by association. We gladly forget our own struggles and reapply the mask of inauthenticity which makes it easier to throw the first stone!
So how does this reflect on our parenting? We are constantly modeling for our kids what is expected and what is just words. We punish them for the very sins that we are practicing. And we preach Grace, but have no idea what it looks like, let alone how to act it out! Let us be the one that breaks this cycle so our children can live freely, and unashamedly!
Today is the day that we become authentic, we seek forgiveness when needed, and we admit that we are broken and ALWAYS will be. We will take ownership of our faults, our bad choices, and our guilty hearts. We will choose wisely when sharing our information with others, not out of shame, but rather as a mindfulness for the person listening. We share not only as a release for our isolation but because healing comes when the darkness is exposed to the light! (Gal. 6:2; James 5:16)
The Secret App offers freedom, but it only leads to more darkness! Talk to your kids today about how they are designed by God to be known. And though God knows everything about them already, He desires us to choose to come into His light and bask in His freedom. This principle also applies to you! Lay your burdens down, admit your struggles, and be reminded that you are already set free by the death of Christ you just have to choose to live in that freedom!